This article was summarized from a video by Suzanne O’Brien, Founder of The International Doulagivers Institute, and guest Adam Daviau. From an early age, many men are taught how to be strong in ways that leave little room for tenderness. “Don’t cry.” “Keep it together.” “Handle it on your own.” These messages are often offered with care, yet over time…
The following was written by Quadra resident and death doula Joanna Lumley, who buried her father in June 2025. Daisies, foxgloves, and the bright yellow flowers of broom will forever remind me of my dad. They lined the roads, as I raced back and forth between my home and his, early this summer. He taught me the names of things….
How we think about death is not fixed—it’s shaped by the stories our culture tells us about what it means to live and what it means to end. The way a society understands death reveals much about what it values in life. In our modern Western world, death is often seen as a full stop, an end point, a curtain…
From an article by Hospice Care of the Lowcountry, SC, USA, citing Dr. Atul Gawande’s book, Being Mortal, summarized by Margaret Verschuur. Facing the end of life is never easy, but asking the right questions can bring clarity, comfort, and a sense of control during one of life’s most uncertain chapters. A growing movement in healthcare is shifting the focus…
Near-death experiences (NDEs) are vivid, often life-changing events reported by people who have come close to dying—whether through illness, accident, or trauma. These experiences often include perceptions beyond ordinary awareness: floating above the body, passing through a tunnel, encountering a bright light, or feeling a profound sense of peace. While no two accounts are exactly alike, researchers have found striking…
This article was written by Michael Lynch in honour of Robin Dempsey Lynch – October 5th 1941 to April 26th 2024. Nothing I can say or write will bring anything new to the billions of words written over the past many centuries about the evolution of life. This is the true story of a quiet, elegant, brave, compassionate, loving, beautiful,…
Following is the script from a School of Life YouTube video titled Reasons to Remember Death. The School of Life is a global organization helping people to lead more fulfilled lives through useful resources and tools. The fast-paced video is directed to those of us who are not actively dying. This is about death, our death, and how useful it…
Quadra island Way To Go works to integrate death as a natural part of community life by initiating conversations, providing education, and encouraging people to plan ahead on issues related to end-of-life, and empowering, guiding, and supporting the practice and process of caring for our own dead and dying, in community. Way To Go began on Quadra in 2017, inspired…
A death doula is a non-medical person trained to care for someone holistically (physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually) at the end-of-life. They recognize death as a natural, accepted, and honoured part of life. Death doulas are also known as end-of-life coaches, transition guides, and end-of-life doulas. Although we’ve been dying for thousands of years, it is only in the last…
Written by Dr. Sarah Kerr, PhD, The Centre for Sacred Deathcare https://sacreddeathcare.com/ When someone dies, the first thing to do is nothing. Don’t run out and call the nurse. Don’t pick up the phone. Take a deep breath and be present to the magnitude of the moment. There’s a grace to being at the bedside of someone you love as…