This article is summarized from “A Practical Guide for the Worst Day of Your Life” written by Christa Ovenell, Death’s Apprentice Education & Planning. I hope you never need the information in this article. But if you’re reading it in the midst of a loss — or preparing yourself just in case — I want you to have a steadying…
Jewish traditions surrounding death and mourning are deeply rooted in reverence, compassion, and community. They offer a structured yet tender way to honour life, acknowledge loss, and accompany the bereaved through their grief. These practices are both ancient and timeless, reflecting a belief that death is a natural part of life’s sacred continuity. When someone dies, care begins immediately. The…
Talking about money after someone dies can feel uncomfortable—but it’s always part of the picture. Even when families do as much as they can themselves, the cost of burial can still be surprisingly high. Let’s walk through the typical expenses, starting from the cemetery and working backwards. There are two cemeteries on the island; the Wei Wai Kai Cemetery at Cape Mudge…
In British Columbia, it is entirely legal for families and friends to care for a body at home after death. You may sit with the body, wash and dress it, build a casket, make arrangements for burial or cremation, and transport the body to the cemetery or crematorium. There is no legal requirement to use a funeral service provider. While…
When someone dies suddenly it can be difficult to know what to expect. Unless there’s a Notification of Expected Death in the Home or No CPR form already in place, all deaths are treated as unexpected, and the first step is to call 911. This connects you with BC Emergency Health Services, who coordinate the response from ambulance, police, and…
When we lose someone dear to us, how do we say goodbye? For centuries, families tended to their deceased loved ones at home, embracing the rituals and tasks of care as a natural part of life. Today, most turn to funeral homes for assistance. However, a growing number of people are rediscovering the intimacy and connection of home funerals. While…
This information was mainly extracted from a video by Sarah Kerr from the Centre for Sacred Death Care. A funeral service is a focused intentional ritual that facilitates healing. When done well, it serves the person who has died, the close family and friends, and the larger community. This requires a structure able to hold the depth of grief and…
As you think about being kind to those you leave behind, consider the question of what a “good death” might look like for you. Would you prefer to die at home, surrounded by friends and family, if that were possible? Or would you like just one or two people by your side, and if so, who? If there is pain…
At our local Quadra Library, there is now a shelving unit of books dedicated to topics relating to caregiving and end-of-life. As you come through the entrance, turn immediately to the right and you will see it bside the magazines. Community members are invited to browse the titles. If you see one you’d like to borrow, jot down the date, book title, and…
Many people are not aware that in British Columbia it is legal to care for a body at home. Family and friends are allowed to sit with, wash, dress, and otherwise tend to the body. They can build a casket, make funeral arrangements, and provide transportation to the cemetery or crematorium. There is no legal requirement to use the services…